Question #1:

Religious extremists have passed their own versions of American laws. Has Sharia Law finally come to America?

PART VII. COVENANT MARRIAGE

§272. Covenant marriage; intent; conditions to create

A. A covenant marriage is a marriage entered into by one male and one female who understand and agree that the marriage between them is a lifelong relationship. Parties to a covenant marriage have received counseling emphasizing the nature and purposes of marriage and the responsibilities thereto. Only when there has been a complete and total breach of the marital covenant commitment may the non-breaching party seek a declaration that the marriage is no longer legally recognized.

B. A man and woman may contract a covenant marriage by declaring their intent to do so on their application for a marriage license, as provided in R.S. 9:224(C), and executing a declaration of intent to contract a covenant marriage, as provided in R.S. 9:273. The application for a marriage license and the declaration of intent shall be filed with the official who issues the marriage license.

C. A covenant marriage terminates only for one of the causes enumerated in Civil Code Article 101. A covenant marriage may be terminated by divorce only upon one of the exclusive grounds enumerated in R.S. 9:307. A covenant marriage agreement may not be dissolved, rescinded, or otherwise terminated by the mutual consent of the spouses.

Acts 1997, No. 1380, §3; Acts 2006, No. 249, §1.

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Question #2:

My husband left to work in another state.........?

He was irrationally jealous and left after a fight. I blew up after constant badgering about sleeping with other men while I'm at work. I am a pharmacist and I feel my job status made him insecure. He was jealous
of the male techs at my job especially the ones in college or with a degree. My husband's a pilot just beginning so the only job he can get right now is a skydive pilot job which doesn't pay much. We just moved and although I had a job waiting he only got a on call job, so he got frustrated, became irrationally jealous again. Now he is sacrificing his marriage and seeing our two boys, 4 and 8, which he hasn't seen for over a month for a job in another state. For 2 weeks after he left I didn't even know where he was until a read an email with the job offer, they are paying for his training and he lives in a trailer at the airport which they pay for, he's a skydive pilot for them. He started the fight and blamed me for my reaction to constantly being accused, his checking my clothes for evidence of cheating, and being verbally abused for things that I am not even doing as an excuse to blame me for his leaving. He says he doesn't want to leave the job because he doesn't want to be a loser stay at home dad. He wants us to move out there. I told him I don't want to move, but no matter what we have to go to counselling. What should I move to where he is or should I expect him to come back? I don't want a divorce, believe it or not he does have a better side we just never stuck with marital counselling long enough and we have 2 beautiful boys who miss their dad, although I cant understand how he can stay away from them that long.....is it a man thing???? Help! What should I do??

Question #3:

Should I try to make my marriage work? I don't know what to do...?

I know it's more than slightly pathetic to ask such a question on Yahoo Answers; nevertheless I am desperate. I moved out of the marital home a year and 2 months ago...we still talk to one another, still see one another and so on. I have no been able to bring myself to completely let go of him and he continues to hold on and try to make it work. We have some serious issues and would go to counseling though due to the economy, we are both unemployed and have no health insurance. We've been married for 6 years now- I'm 26 and he is 33. We share the same faith yet have different cultures. I'm American and he is Arab. Long story short, he can be emotionally and verbally abusive and I thought he may have been cheating. But trust me, I have done damage myself and am not a total victim. We both made serious mistakes. But I guess what it boils down to is...should I try again with him? He is more than willing to do so. I am hesitant because of the heartache and pain I went through...but I am still very depressed and cannot let go of him. I don't know what to do. I just know we cannot keep living like this and a decision needs to be made...by me. I have tried forcing myself one way or another but feel like I just cant. Any thoughts or suggestions are greatly appreciated.

Thanks for reading.
I know we have both changed but I am still hesitant...he has told me repeatedly he knows he treated me badly and how he handle things was wrong. He says lets learn from our mistakes and try again. Give it a few months and if it still doesn't work, then we'll divorce. I am just so scared of getting hurt like that again because he did put me through hell....it becomes, am I doing it to myself? Can a controlling man ever really change? Our marriage was very unhealthy. But I cannot let go. I just cannot let go of him.

Thanks again for your answers everyone! I appreciate it!

Question #4:

Pre-marital counseling?

My discovered my live-in fiancee had been messing around on the internet, dating and swingers sites and stuff. He says he only met one person offline and nothing happened, but did admit to "chatting" with women from different sites, saying he was just "goofing around." I view this as cheating, especially when he goes to the planning and trouble to actually go meet someone and take it into the real world. He has been bending over backwards to give me extra love and attention since then. He says he loves me and doesn't want to lose me. Let me add that we are both over the age of 40, have been married before, and have teenaged kids who share our home. Apparently mostly, he was engaging in this deceit while at work. My problem is that all I asked of him from this, if he wanted me to try and forgive him and move past it, was to seek pre-marital counseling. He agreed and said he would do anything necessary to make me stay and be happy. Over a month has passed and nothing. He hasn't made phone call one or talked to anyone or anything. Nothing. I have asked about it twice, and all he says is that he hasn't done it yet. I want to believe he really loves me and wants our relationship to work, like I said he has been wonderful in many other ways and makes a visible effort to make me the top of his priority list....except for this. It hurts me that all I asked for was this to help fix us, and he said ok. Why isn't he following thru? Am I making a bigger deal of this than I should? I feel his cheating, and yes, it was cheating, is something deserving of talking about with someone...
I wanted to add what the reason was he gave me for doing this...he says he was just goofing around and it was like it wasn't even him, like it wa another erson doing it. He immediatley deleted everything when confronted and has since allowed me open access to his home computer and blackberry. Of course, I still don't know what he does at work... I saw emails he sent to this woman he met up with and he said prety intimate things to her...told her about his son, and told her that he feels they have more than just a physical connection. One email I saw talked about how she had his scarf...how does that happen if you have only met once for 5 minutes as he claims?? I want to believe him so badly...my children and I moved here to be with him and his children and I love him so much. What he doesn't seem to understand is that a part of himself that should have been reserved for me and our relationship was being pan-handled to others.

Question #5:

how can i explain to my husband?

I want a divorce because my husband cheated , has no respect for me. He is more concerned with hanging with the fellas ( and Lord knows who else) than working on our marriage. I do not know what I get out of this marriage and the stress is making me not me
I do not even know if I love him ..honestly.

He cheated but I am looking for a counselor and a couples retreat. I do not want him to touch me.
We never have sex. We have been married for 5 months.
He does not get he has hurt me so much over the last 5 months I just want a divorce.
I feel wrong as a Christian and I thought I did everything right before we were married. He even said if I stay in for the rest of the month will I be able to go next month and watch football.
Before we were married I thought I did everything I prayed read books we went to Christian pre-marital counseling.
He does not get it ?
I have spent hours praying and I joined a praying group at church and it has not help. I do not want to go to the pastor because I just stated going to the church as I moved to my husband’s house.
Is it wrong that it want him to delete every female( face book , twitter, his phone) I do not approve of. I do not know these woman why should he be friends with them? He has plenty of female cousins and sisters. I feel like he is choosing these single woman over me.
So I do not know how I will feel in the future, but I just want away from him. He went out last night and it upset me , if we were divorce I would not know if he goes out. He will not go anywhere with me. I never lived with a man before so I am guessing, but our relationship feels like living with a boyfriend and not married to a husband. I know I am not perfect but feel like who can we work on my problems when he is not home and he cheats and as far as I am concern is not changing his behavior? When he is home he does not care to work on the marriage?
He says i am being a quitter but how can I work on a marriage that he destroyed himself ? How can I get him to understand that we have major issues before we worry about the little issues?
i am sorry . He begged me to work on the marriage i said to deletd some felemas i did not trust . He did not so i will proceed with the divorce. He can have the females now. HE said i was wrong to ask him, was i wrong to have had ( past) to ask him ?
i am sorry . He begged me to work on the marriage i said to deletd some felemas i did not trust . He did not so i will proceed with the divorce. He can have the females now. HE said i was wrong to ask him, was i wrong to have had ( past) to ask him ?
i am sorry . He begged me to work on the marriage i said to deletd some felemas i did not trust . He did not so i will proceed with the divorce. He can have the females now. HE said i was wrong to ask him, was i wrong to have had ( past) to ask him ?
do not know why it posted 3 times

Question #6:

Would you go to the same counselor your friend sees?

she's seeing him for marital counseling, I just feel weird going to him for individual counseling. I know there's counselor/patient confidentiality.
But she highly recommends him and his profile says that he gets to the core of the issue. Yes he also does individual counseling

Question #7:

How do I get my husband to go to therapy?

My husband and I have been married a year and have a 3 month old and have had issues from the beginning. He is totally different than the man I married. He acts more like a child now then an adult. I have asked him to go to therapy but he refuses and he just told me we are not compatible and our marriage won't work. I know I have problems and am seeing a psychologist but even the Dr wants us to have marital counseling to address the issues. I'm desperate and don't want a divorce but will if it's do only way to raise my daughter in a peaceful home. I don't expect counseling to magically fix things but I hope it will teach us to deal with issues better.

Question #8:

Is it wise to plan for a life together?

Me and my fiance are going to get married but we agreed on a five year waiting period. So, within four years we will be doing pre-martial counseling while planning the wedding. Within those five years, we will be: saving up for a house and also the marriage, putting extra money aside, adding more businesses under our holding company, investing more, moving to London/U.K., etc. By the way, we've been together for almost four years now, I'm 25 and she's 24. We're both met in college and now have our own businesses.

1. Is it wise to wait so long to marry while engaged?
2. Is it wise to plan so much and do so much together during those years?
3. Or, wise to have the pre-marital counseling?

Question #9:

Got pregnant while going through pre-marital counseling?

I am going through premarital counseling and have been since March and of course no sex whatsoever. Well something devastating happened and the only thing that got me to get my mind off it was sex. Because we weren't having sex we didn't have condoms and I wasn't keeping track of simple ovulation indicators, I didn't know it was "that time", so I got pregnant. I know it was stupid to do so but we are now pregnant and I am not disappointed or mad in any way, I'm actually eccentric and excited! But, my question is, what will my pastor say, or do, if he finds out before the wedding? And P.S. the wedding is August 28th.

Question #10:

How do I file rape charges after 1 year or more?

I was in a marriage that was not good for anyone. Over the last 2 years of our marriage he repeatedly forced himself on me. We have been separated now for 1 year 4 months. Our divorce was final 8 months ago. I am in counseling and working on the healing proceess, but I feel like part of that is going to be to file charges. I have no idea where to start. Anyone have any ideas? This all happened in Utah, I now live in Ohio.

As additional information, there is no statute of limitation on rape in the state of Utah. 88% of marital rape cases end in a conviction, and the other 12% are dropped by the accuser. I'll contact the police where it happened, and see where I can get. I don't need physical proof, I have a recording of him on the phone, and when I asked him "why did you do that to me?" his response was "I have repented of that and you need to forgive me."

Question #11:

What happens if you take Xanax and/or Adderall sparingly later in pregnancy if you truly believe you need it?

I am 22 weeks pregnant and going through an intensely difficult time emotionally. For years before my pregnancy I have been prescribed Zoloft, Adderall, Ambien, and Xanax. As soon as I found out I was pregnant I ceased all medications except Zoloft & occasionally Ambien (doctor gave me the OK). But now, I am having horrible marital & money problems. I also have an 11 month old to attend to. I have been so stressed out I can't eat, sleep, I feel weak, and can tell my body is unhealthy. So, I began taking my Xanax again, and occasionally my Adderall during the day to give me some much needed motivation. I hope it's late enough in pregnancy that it will not hurt the baby, and (I KNOW PEOPLE!) it's not recommended at all & it's a category D, but taking a .5mg every now & then to clam me down so I can deal seems acceptable. Has anyone else had this problem and experienced this? Also, we've already started counseling but the first appt isn't for a a week or two.

Question #12:

Marital Separation for benefit of marriage?

I was wondering if anyone here went through a separation that did NOT lead to divorce, and how long it took for the partner who left to start wanting to call and see you again? My husband packed up about a week ago and moved back in with his parents. He said it isn't working out and he feels we tried a number of times to no avail. (although we have not even gone to counseling). Things have gotten bad, and it really did take his leaving to wake me up and see how cruel I had been. Right now I am just looking for some hope that this is not over so I can go on with life for now. He told me he doesn't know what to do yet, and that he doesn't believe in divorce and he always tells me he loves me before he hangs up the phone. I am trying to give him the space he needs to sift through his confusion, but I am hurting and driving my friends nuts, so I thought I would see if anyone here had any success stories.
i asked him last time we talked if he wanted to work on our marriage and go to counseling I let him know that I DO love him dearly and I will be here if he needs me, that I do not want a divorce. He said he "want to tell you what you want to hear but I just don't know right now." I decided then that the next time we speak, he will call me. We still have bills together , so he will have to call eventually.

Question #13:

I Think I Caught my Mom Having an Affair?

Okay first off, my parents have been going through some marital troubles where my mom has been very unhappy with my dad for a little while now and just recently came to the breaking point. Her and my dad are going to try to go to counseling because they want to try and save whats left of the marriage. My dad has been begging my mom to change her mind and for the most part, it looked like she had.

My brothers and my dad went on a trip to South Carolina for 10 days (a trip that had originally been planned before any of this stuff occurred) and I've been with my mom. We're really, really close and have always been for a long time. So when this time for us to spend alone came up, I was very excited.

Last night, I sit down on her computer to find an email with my schedule for work when I click the sent tab on the email to find out if my mom had sent an email to her friend telling him she wanted a divorce from my dad because a previous email had suggested that. Up comes a long list of messages to and from a guy who only leaves his name as "B." Let me tell you, these emails between him and my mom are graphic. Something you would find as the plot of a porn movie or something. The entire thing was stuff they wanted to do to each other and what she dreamt about him and what he wanted to do with her. I almost, literally, threw up. We were supposed tow watch a movie that night so when she came into the room I was in, I freaked. I started hysterically crying and not knowing what to do, I screamed and yelled at her in every way I can. My voice still hurts.

Then, she turned it around, "What did you see!? You were snooping on my stuff! Get off!" And explained to me that her friend "Brent" and her had set this up to see if I would be snooping on her computer ever to catch her doing something like this. She said she was worried because I had seen her stuff before that she wondered how long it would take for me to find this in her email. And then she said it was graphic because if it wasn't anything other than that, I wouldn't have brought it up to her and she wouldn't have known I read the email.

Regardless of it this is cheating or not, I still think this was a horrible thing to do to anyone, let alone your daughter who you're supposed to be close with.

What do I do? I have no idea what to do. I'm supposed to go to New Orleans tomorrow with my church for a week but now I don't even feel like leaving the house. Is she cheating? Did I deserve this trick that she played on me?

Any help will be awesome.
Thanks so much.

Question #14:

what could be going on with my husband?

My husband is 34 and I am 29. He is so very immature and rude. He is always wanting to go hang with guys 10 yrs his junior and not married. I try to discuss things calmly and it always turns into a fight and him telling me I have a bad temper. I am ready to leave his ass, but Im gonna give it my all before i do. i suggested marital counseling and he said i need counseling not him. He has.turned into a poor provider and doesnt understand why I refuse to have a baby. Please input. Trying to stay calm and make a rational decision.
He did NOT act this way before we got married. I dont know what happened within a month or so of him losing his job he just seemed to regress back to a teenager or something.

Question #15:

Why do some husbands have such a hard time letting go of mommy?

Most of my marital issues stem from my husband being a mommy pleaser.

He's broken promises to spend time with the family because mommy needed help with something
He's ignored her treating me like garbage
He ignored her telling us that everything we're doing with out kids is wrong and that we need counseling

Why is it that some husbands can't seem to get past "mommy pleasing"?
I said "mommy" because that is exactly how he acts, like a child.

And I've tried making this work for over 3.5 years now. Until he can learn to stand up for his new family they will keep treating me llike crap because they get away with it. I don't think it's healthy for our children to be exposed to this.

Question #16:

Where to get best marital advice?

My husband can't, won't or want to have sex with me anymore, should I try counseling or just get divorced and move on with my life?

Question #17:

Is it alright to have close male friend? We can share any topic, even our marital problems with each other.?

Is this healthy? I can share with my husband as well (but his answer is always not nice to hear), but ,my male friend can give good, constructive advise, maybe because he's in training industry so he knows how to approach n counsel people.

Question #18:

Why are husbands less likely to forgive their wives after infidelity?

My husband and I have couple friends who are going through marital counseling after cheating on each other. One of the big blocks they are having (according to her version of things) is that she is willing to forgive him but he is not willing to forgive her so far. She says that the counselor has said this is fairly common. Why are husbands less willing to forgive sometimes than their wives? Obviously this is not always the case, but on average this is possibly so, but why?

Question #19:

Why are people not open to the idea of counseling/therapy?

According to reports it says marriage and family therapist will be in demand come around 2018 because more people are starting to be open to that idea.

But why do you think people are so stand off-ish to the idea of getting help?
I mean sure you can be independent but once in a while we ALL need help.
I just notice there's way too many couples/families lacking communication and have problems n complain about it but won't do anything about it either so that's why I'm wondering.

Also.. I wanna be a marital/family counselor so do you have any advice for me?
:D

Question #20:

Greencard & confession...but why?

Husband and I separated cause we weren't getting along. I moved out. Then he tells me he wants to do marital counselling to which I was so happy about so I went (since I'd been asking him to go for some time). So he filed divorce earlier this yea rand said if I didn't sign his immigration papers for the greencard he'd divorce me. I signed. We continued doing m. counselling and I was asking if he'd gotten hsi green card. He kept saying now. 2 weeks ago he tells me we need to talk, that he got his greencard about 2 months ago and he had sex with a girl he met in a club in December. He said they had sex 3x with condoms and she went down on him. He also took me to the same exactly place in January when he told me he wanted to do marriage counselling. he said he told me this casue it's better to be honest, then he cancelled our marraige counselling but is saying he wants us to work out. He invited me to go on vacation with him which I cleared with my boss but won't pay my portion of it. Please please give me some advice.............. does this sound lik ehe just used me??? We've been together for seVEN years. I feel like I've died inside.
My mother and bro seem to think he used me for a greencard. I don't want to believe or think that because teheat would mean that last 7 years of my life were a lie. We had some amazing times together.





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