Question #1:

EX HUBBY VS. NEW HUBBY?

Will type the facts, u will get the point. Married my H.S. Sweetheart. Had 3 kids. together 14 yrs. Discovered ex had life long sex addiction. Not naive, we worked early shifts, he was home 2-3 hours daily before me. I always got the kids after my shift, to allow him to rest. He used those hours for addiction. Was home every night! Ideal marriage/ family. Stood by him for 2 years as he attended counseling. He failed. We divorced. The kids did fine. Honor Students, play sports and high self esteems with Christian Morals. Great dad and active in their lives. Odd, we are friendly/ joke. Just over 3 years. He's not married and dates. Not hurting another woman? I am re-married. 2 yrs in December. He is a great man. He is my age. No kids and accepts mine as his. My kids adore him. My ex and he are friendly for respect. The problem? I still love my ex deeply. I love my new hubby and know what I have. I can't get past the feeling of being lost. I feel my spot is with the family I created and one member (the dad) is not here. The kids are not asking me to reconcile. The ex calls me about kids & to make jokes. Also to tell me of a bad day, if he is ill, if the boss is mad, etc. Still thinks of me as his wife and loves me? He needs to hear my voice to sooth him. I just help by talking a few minutes. He is respectful. My new hubby is aware of his calls, continued love. I think of my ex several times a day. Not sexual. I love my current hubby but feel I am not belonging here. I am sure the ex would be around if I was not married. I am not saying I want to leave my hubby. I know the ex is still an addict. Life is not the same and I may relate the down road to missing the ex. So I can be wrong! I will always wonder "what if I opened myself up again?" Am I crazy? What do I do? I do talk to the new hubby. He says he respects the love that will always exist or I would be abnormal if I didn't care.

Question #2:

How much do clinical/counseling psychologists make?

Question #3:

I have no clue what to do with my life after school..advice?

I'm sixteen and in my second last year of school(UK) and have drifted through several career ideas,nothing really sticking,as I lost interest or came across hurdles that I really couldn't get past,not for lack of trying! Now I've reached a point where my friends are all settling on their career ideas and I'm left floating around.They are all really smart and aspire to be doctors,lawyers,dentists etc..I have an interest in counsel ling,especially with young people and children but university courses are too expensive and grades are out of my reach.One other friend is deciding to go to college instead and do a basic secretary course and work in an department store.I could do that but it seems...rubbish and boring.I guess I am fantasizing about being something I can never be.Sorry for rambling I'm just pressured and confused.I'm not clever enough to keep up with my smart friends so therefore feel useless. HELP xxx

Question #4:

Psychologist vs Psychiatrist?

I would like to be a psychiatrist. But I hear people saying they don't trust psychiatrists very much because all they do is prescribe medicine. If I become a psychiatrist, I don't want to end up like one of those people who just prescribe meds and don't care about the patients' problems. Can a psychiatrist give counseling? Also, which would you trust more - psychologist or psychiatrist? Which makes more money? Is the difference in salary great? Which goes to school for a longer time?

Question #5:

Survey - Would you act differently if?

your BF/GF/SO was also here on Y!A and was a contact?

If so, how?

I am declining to answer my own question on the advice of legal counsel LOL.
Add - LOL, "He" isn;t the only one! "She" doesn't miss much either! xxxxxx
Add @ Shy Anne - I appreciate the attention but you're right, Cupcake is my very, very sexy girlfriend and BTW my wife-to-be so she owns me and anything I say here on Y!A. I'm sure that your "blowees" must have a lot of fun but my Sweet Baby is all I need or want. Again thanks for the attention but I'm very happy with my Cupcake and not interested in anyone else.
Add @ Jenn - I have known you long enough to know that you are such a good wife and person you would never have to worry about anything your hubby sees from you. BTW next to my Niners I'm pulling for the Packers and Aaron this year. I'm STILL pissed that we didn't draft him!

Question #6:

wife now wants to see marriage counselor alone?

My wife and I have been living apart for about one year but still see each other daily, we are in our late twenties and she moved out at first to have her mom help her with her illness, and to watch our son. Well even though her mom lives 2 blocks away we fought alot about her not living in our home. So we are now in counseling and have been going about once a week for 3 or 4 weeks and now my wife wants to start going alone. What is this all about, is this normal? I thought marriage counseling worked best with both present? Any insight? thanks

Question #7:

Anyone who can make me a positive person ?

I have become so negative..and counseling is out of question(reasons)

so ..?? please??

Question #8:

Why do I hate people so much? And how to overcome it?

For most of my adult life (I am now 27) I have had a real problem with people. It has cost me several jobs, and prevented me from building friendships.
I was painfully shy as a teenager and it seems to have stemmed from that. I just get irritated by peoples presence, I have no idea why. I have a close circle of friends but rarely meet new ones or venture out from that circle. I have a boyfriend who I live with, and so far I have managed to keep this side of me hidden from him because I don't want him to think I'm a bad person, but he's beginning to notice.

I just can't open up to people, I always assume people are against me and I like a lot of time by myself.

For example, I'm dreading this saturday, because we are moving house and lots of people have volunteered to help us, which of course is really nice, but has already made me feel really uneasy and irritated at the thought of all these people noseying round our new place. I know I sound like a complete *****, but surely recognising I have a problem means I'm not a bad person? Do I need counselling? How can I overcome this?
I asked this same question yesterday & got nothing but nasty answers - stop giving me a reason to hate people! I'm asking for help here!

Question #9:

i really need desperate advice. you could save my day.... :(?

at school people have started to make comments about my weight every day. i mean EVERY day.

before people started doing that i have already been really self conscious with my body....been trying to change that for almost 2 years now, NOTHINGS WORKED :(

i have lost faith in everything.........i wont give up and ill keep trying to achieve MY personal goals, but it SUCKS that other people have started making comments now, too.

at school most the girls are sticks and im probably the only average girl in my year level.
to teens these days if u arent skinny youre considered fat. it SUCKS. SO much.

its not that i care about what people think, its just that now my insecure feelings have been confirmed true.....
before i started screaming and crying. then i ran down the street, but decided to come back home after not long at all. now im here hoping that someone willl say something on yahoo answers to make me feel better.

p.s i have dysthymia, get counseling, anddd i go to gym and stuff so dw bout that i know how to improve that, just need help on what to think right now. thanks.

p.p.s my dad who im living with really doesnt care. so thanks.... :)

Question #10:

i need a hug :( since that isnt possible, some advice please?

at school people have started to make comments about my weight every day. i mean EVERY day.

before people started doing that i have already been really self conscious with my body....been trying to change that for almost 2 years now, NOTHINGS WORKED :(

i have lost faith in everything.........i wont give up and ill keep trying to achieve MY personal goals, but it SUCKS that other people have started making comments now, too.

at school most the girls are sticks and im probably the only average girl in my year level.
to teens these days if u arent skinny youre considered fat. it SUCKS. SO much.

its not that i care about what people think, its just that now my insecure feelings have been confirmed true.....
before i started screaming and crying. then i ran down the street, but decided to come back home after not long at all. now im here hoping that someone willl say something on yahoo answers to make me feel better.

p.s i have dysthymia, get counseling, anddd i go to gym and stuff so dw bout that i know how to improve that, just need help on what to think right now. thanks.

p.p.s my dad who im living with really doesnt care. so thanks.... :)

Question #11:

In PA, if I quit my job could I still collect unemployment given these circumstances?

Reasons I’m filing for unemployment:

Personal Reasons:
The stress caused by my job has become a hardship on my marriage and my health (causing extreme weight loss in a short time frame), requiring my husband & I to seek both individual counseling and marriage counseling which I have been unable to attend due to my work load, which I feel will continue to lead my marriage into a downward spiral.

Health Reasons:
In a matter of 3 months I have gone from a size 8 to a size 1, dropping 33lbs due to the stress of the position and missing meals to ensure extra time to complete tasks (including working through lunch and taking work home and not eating with my family or at all on some nights)

Due to Unsuitable work:
When I was hired I was told that I would be able to work from home a couple of times a week. Since I transferred properties in July of 2009 I have only worked from home >7-8 days total and only due to weather or illness. I was also told that my second virtually runs itself, however this has been the property that I have had the most issues with including a 100% file review in which I was required to make correction dating back to 2000 in some files, and almost double the average yearly turnover within the first 5 months. I have also had consistent resistance from a subordinate that has been well documented, this subordinate was given a final warning in November , this particular employee has since received numerous warning notices, 2 unsatisfactory performance reviews and continues to ignore direct orders and most recently make me feel unsafe working around him as he used his master keys to unlock a designated locked area for another female employee to express milk for her child

Question #12:

How to get my NCO to go to promotion board?

I have maxed out my correspondence have 58 college credits have 29 on weapon card 227 pt card 1 GCM maxed out COA's. Now I have not deployed and have 4 yrs in service. Because of Stress fractures I now have a P2 profile. My NCO has told me he needs to see more leader ship out of me. I have done all I can and they keep telling me the same thing every month. He did say once he was tired of giving me the same counseling since I have no real reason keeping me back. What can I do to get my self to the board to get promoted if I get all the commander points and walk out of the board with an 140 I will have a 640 points. My mos is 92 f. Need some good advice to move in my career.

Question #13:

Married to a control freak?

If you were a middle aged man who has has suddenly, through research, discovered that you have been married to a woman who is a control freak for the past 1 year, what would you do ?
How do you deal with this person ? At what point do you give up and leave ?
Do you suggest counseling ? or leaving the relationship ?
What would you do ?

Question #14:

need some help please?

not married, no kids, no car but employed and still owe a ton of money. i owe 13,000 in credit card debt, almost 3,000 in payday loans which is causing my checking account to be over draft which i thought had protection and have applied twice for it. please do not send me to any more payday lenders which will cause even more debt to incur. Have looked at credit card debt counseling and they are going to start helping me with payments of 330 per month. is that still 2 high as i earn $ 600.00 or less bi weekly

Can they garnish my wages if i have already told them i had a plan to pay them back. They do not understand i have other bills which are starting to be behind starting this month

must add no one want to lend me money to pay off debts. Have very bad credit and it will get worse for the next few months if i do not get any help. plus i have been reported to tele track

Question #15:

My heart is bleeding over ex having a boyfriend and my 2 kids live with ex. I am jealous full of anxiety, etc.?

Please help if you can. I got divorced about 1 1/2 yrs ago. My kids live with ex and I see the kids every other weekend. My heart is bleeding, I tried to ask her to go to counseling, but she is in midlife crisis now and dating having a blast. We were miserable, and argued in front of kids etc. Never cheated or anything like that. She now has a boyfriend, and I am, i guess Jealous because she is so happy and I am in the pits. I have dated but never could find that girl that would match up to my ex. I love her still and she hates me because I always try to get her back. I miss my kids so much, I go from seeing every day, tucking them in bed, etc. Now I only see them every other weekend.. I am seeing a therapist, and just started medication for depression. The pain is so bad, and cry a few times a day out of the blue. I stay busy all day, go to gym, work, etc but it is in my head constantly that I miss my kids so much and that she is sleeping with her new boyfriend..I know deep down that if we got back together, that it wouldn't work out, but I miss my family so much and love having my little team, with my ex... What can I do PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE help me. I have a great therapist, but I don’t know how much I can take this pain. Kev
The marriage broke up mutually because we just couldn't get along, she was very controling and couldn't deal with it so we would end up verbally abusing each other. I am a big part of that, I always was told I was a loser by her and made me feel like 2 cents. So self esteem is at a all time low. I have a great family and supportive friends but I am just sheltering myself from everybody because, I feel like I am complaining and don't want to worry anybody.. I know I have to go through grieving but and therapy but I want to get on with my life and be the best father and find my soul mate that will take the pain away.. i have dated but nothing that is a match.
i would love to see my kids more often but all i think is i have to take them back home..it just turns my stomach also knowing she is with her boyfriend, so it gives her the free time for that.. i am just a mess

Question #16:

if i am not depressed then i dont need to go to counselling do i?

I go through long periods of depression then long periods of being fine, when i'm fine i dont want to go to counselling cause i feel it brings it all back and makes me feel like i should act depressed even tho i'm not.
So should i go? or wait until i feel depressed again, right now i dont feel like i ever will be, but its a cycle i have always had, so i kinda know i will be. But i dont want to sort of make it happen, by going to counselling and getting myself all confused!

Question #17:

Counselling then psychology..?

Is this possible for me to do.
Basically im doing a AQA intermediate certificate in counselling i've already done the first year. Then hopefully il go on to the diploma. Which is 2 years..
After working with clients for a couple off years ( i know i sound like im planning it out just like that obviously i will have to wait and see what happens im just being brief..)

But i wondered will this help at all, qualification wise if i went into Psychology??
I also have a nvq3 doubt its relevant just adding..

Question #18:

Is it normal for teen boys to fantasize about their mothers?

My 17 year old son and i are very close. Much closer than my daughter and I. Yesterday, my son admitted to me that he fantasizes about me and he asked me what does that mean. I was floored. I was shocked. But then I felt loved. I told him that it is his racing hormones and that it will pass. I asked him if ever had sex with a girl yet and he told me no. I explained to him since I am the only woman in his life, that might be why he fantasizes about me. I hope I am right.....because I did not know what to tell him.

My son is handsome, I do not know why he has not had sex yet. Do you think this is why he fantasizes about me. Does he need counseling? I need to know if this is fairly common that teen boys fantasize about their mothers while masturbating.

Question #19:

Percy Jackson Fans - is Thalia Luke's aunt?

I find this pretty funny, once - I admit it - I sort of liked Thalia. But a few nights ago I was in Cabin 11 talking to my father via Iris-Message, after he went Connor and Travis Stoll were talking about the crazy relationships of gods. Connor said demigods were no better as Percy is dating Annabeth who are both cousins and I once liked my aunt Thalia ..... :O WHAT?

is she really my aunt? Aunt Thalia *grins*

oh Hades...my father is Hermes, his father is Zeus, his daughter is Thalia
ewww Chiron I need counselling

Question #20:

what should i do now?

I am a 50 year old male. I was engaged for 4 years, and married for 21 years. The marrieage ended in divorce, but we remained close friends for another 8 years. Truth is, in that time i never really stopped loving her, but for me it was a good comprimise as it meant i could see her and my kids, pretty much as often as i wanted. This all changed on jan 1 2010. She got a bloke. As it happens it was someone i regarded as a friend.

There is no doubt she acted completely within her rights, but, im struggling. For several months i suffered from anxiety and depression, for which i was on medication and receiving counselling.


I am alot better than i was, but have since lost my job, not least because under my mental state i could not concentrate on what i was supposed to be doing.

Although no longer on meds, my confidence and moviation have fallen through the floor. I suspect that i am difficult to be around.. Sometimes it feels like my ex wife is all i think about.

i am in a support group for people with emotional problems, but the fact is i struggle to cope when i am on my own, which is something that feels like it happens alot.

i would b very grateful for your opinions, however critical they may be.

thanks for taking the time to read this





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