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Question #1:

Why do people who don't belong to a church, want to get married in one?

I belong to a church that often gets visitors who show up, look around, and say, "What a lovely place! We'd like to get married here." Our clergy explain that we have rules, including successful completion of at least four counseling sessions--roughly centered around conflict resolution, sex, money, and children--and active attendance for at least a year. We explain that we take marriage very seriously and that we expect the community to be supportive of the couple. Often the visitors claim we're being "rude" or "unfriendly" because we don't let them wander in and merely use the church as a prop house.

So, why would anyone want a church wedding when they don't care about the actual church commitment?
Beautiful disaster--we have people who are homeless who worship with us. They're not the problem--the people who march in and assume we're there solely to put their fantasy in place, are the problem.
Nova--you followed the rules, which is my point. You had respect for the congregation and did what it asked of you.

Question #2:

What do you think of Sheriff Joe Arpaio's Response to the DOJ Lawsuit?

The following is an official statement by Maricopa County Sheriff Joe Arpaio regarding today’s lawsuit filed against his office by the U.S. Justice Department in Washington, D.C. for alleged refusal to turn over documents. It is followed by another statement from his Washington, D.C. attorney, Bob Driscoll.

“The Obama administration has filed three lawsuits against Arizona in the last few weeks ... one against a college district, one against the state of Arizona and now one against my office. Each lawsuit centers on something to do with alleged racial discrimination.

These actions make it abundantly clear that Arizona, including this Sheriff, IS Washington’s new whipping boy. Now it’s time to take the gloves off.

As for today’s lawsuit against my office: These people in Washington met with my attorneys only a few days ago. And in that meeting, Washington got our cooperation; they admitted they already have thousands of pages of the requested documents; and they were given access to interview my staff and get into my jails.

They smiled in our faces and then stabbed us in the back with this lawsuit. The Obama administration intended to sue us all along, no matter what we did to try to avert it. Washington isn’t playing fair and it’s time Americans everywhere wake up and see this administration for what it really is. Calculating, underhanded at times and certainly not looking out for the best interests of the legal citizens residing in this country. “

STATEMENT OF ROBERT N. DRISCOLL,

COUNSEL TO SHERIFF JOSEPH ARPAIO AND THE MARICOPA COUNTY SHERIFF’S OFFICE

“Today’s lawsuit by the Department of Justice is part of a deliberate media strategy to “get tough” on Sheriff Arpaio and the Maricopa County Sheriff’s Office and undermine immigration enforcement by a local Sheriff who is trying desperately to make up for this Administration’s own indifference to the topic.

The DOJ suit speaks loudly by what it does not say. It does not allege that Sheriff Arpaio or the MCSO have discriminated against anyone because the DOJ, after 18 months of soliciting allegations against Sheriff Arpaio, has come up empty. Even the purported basis for the suit, which alleges a lack of “cooperation,” is a sham. In fact, after meeting with the DOJ last week, just last Friday, on behalf of MCSO, I informed the DOJ that MCSO would cooperate with all reasonable document requests and would schedule tours of MCSO facilities and interviews with senior MCSO command staff. We were awaiting a response from DOJ, and this lawsuit is apparently it. Clearly DOJ is more interested filing its third lawsuit in as many weeks against Arizona defendants than in looking into the allegations that purportedly gave rise to its investigation. This lawsuit is nothing more than an attempt to obscure the fact that DOJ still has no case. Today’s suit over documents does not change that.”
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Question #3:

Can you guys look at this from the outside and tell me your opinions please?

I am in a relationship with this guy who is 10 yrs younger than me. I am also pregnant by him and we currently live in different states. He keeps wanting to come with me, even quit his job and so forth to come here with me and baby. The thing is that I am no longer as in love with him as I once was. I use to stop the world for him but after he has hurt me a couple of times, my love for him slowly started to fade. I don't want to tell him bc I don't want him to move on with anyone else. I do care and love him, just not nearly as much as I use to before. Then there's the father of my 2 other daughters whom I currently am living with. I care for him deeply but I am unsure if I completely love him bc of all I've put him thru. I stop to think that if I really loved him I would of never cheated or lied and continue to lie like I do. I'm letting him believe this is also his baby which he has doubts but stays with me anyway. As like the other, I can't bear to see him with anyone else therefore I don't let him go. What's wrong with me?? Am I just a control freak? I know I'm wrong, these are feelings I just can't control. Would u think I need some kind of help like counseling or something? I'm being selfish and self centered, I just can't stop myself ='(

Question #4:

What exactly does Obama mean when he says there is a "great Muslim herritage" in America?

Barack OBAMA, during his Cairo speech, said: "I know, too, that Islam has always been a part of America 's story."

AN AMERICAN
CITIZEN'S RESPONSE:

Dear Mr. Obama:

Were those Muslims that were in America when the Pilgrims first landed? Funny, I thought they were Native American Indians.

Were those Muslims that celebrated the first Thanksgiving day? Sorry again, those were Pilgrims and Native American Indians.

Can you show me one Muslim signature on the United States Constitution?
Declaration of Independence ?
Bill of Rights?

Didn't think so.

Did Muslims fight for this country's freedom from
England ? No.

Did Muslims fight during the Civil War to free the slaves in America ? No, they did
not. In fact, Muslims to this day are still the largest traffickers in human slavery. Your own half brother, a devout Muslim, still advocates slavery himself, even though Muslims of Arabic descent refer to black Muslims as "pug nosed slaves." Says a lot of what the Muslim world really thinks of your family's "rich Islamic heritage," doesn't it Mr. Obama?

Where were Muslims during the Civil Rights era of this country? Not present.

There are no pictures or media accounts of Muslims walking side by side with Martin Luther King, Jr. or helping to advance the cause of Civil Rights.

Where were Muslims during thiscountry's Woman's Suffrage
era? Again, not present. In fact, devout Muslims demand that women are subservient
to men in the Islamic culture. So much so, that often they are beaten for not wearing the
'hajib' or for talking to a man who is not a direct family member or their husband.
Yep, the Muslims are all for women's rights, aren't they?

Where were Muslims during World War II? They were aligned with Adolf Hitler. The Muslim
grand mufti himself met with Adolf Hitler, reviewed the troops and accepted support from
the Nazi's in killing Jews.

Finally, Mr. Obama, where were Muslims on Sept. 11th, 2001? If they weren't flying planes into
the World Trade Center , the Pentagon or a field in Pennsylvania killing nearly 3,000 people on
our own soil, they were rejoicing in the Middle East . No one can dispute the picturesshown from all parts of the Muslim world celebrating on CNN, Fox News, MSNBC and other cable news networks that day. Strangely, the very "moderate" Muslims who's asses you bent over backwards to kiss in Cairo , Egypt on June 4th were stone cold silent post 9-11. To many Americans, their silence has meant approval for the acts of that day.

And THAT, Mr.
Obama, is the "rich heritage" Muslims have here
in America .

Oh, I'm sorry, I
forgot to mention the Barbary Pirates.
They were Muslim.

And now we can add November 5, 2009 - the slaughter of American soldiers at Fort Hood by a Muslim major who is a doctor and a psychiatrist who was supposed to be counseling soldiers returning from battle in Iraq and Afghanistan .

That, Mr. Obama
is the "Muslim heritage" in America
.

Question #5:

Have I lost grip of reality?

I had anxiety and depression last year and started to self harm. After months of self harm, I got help and went to a doctor but my counselling wasn't for another 8 weeks after that. I was major depressed in those eight weeks and continued secretly self harming a few times and deeply considered suicide.

After about 5 weeks, I started to watch anime and read manga. I wasn't as depressed any more, and could watch six hours of anime at a time, eat or something, and watch it again. I played a lot of video games before that but after it I play much more. (mainly titles like ace attorney, another code, hotel dusk, trauma centre, pokemon, harvest moon, etc.) I went to my counselling session for depression but because of anime, I wasn't upset and never had to go back. A few months ago, I stopped watching anime and played games less and lost my appetite and felt depressed. I lost over half a stone and then I started to watch anime again and I was fine. Yesterday, my dog got put down. I'm learning Japanese and trying to get up to date with pokemon but yesterday I just done it as usual. I wasn't upset or anything.

I really want to go to Japan and constantly want to be a shinigami or pokemon trainer. I feel really stupid but I can't help it. Have I lost grip of reality? all I want to do is watch anime, play games, learn Japanese and be an anime character.

Question #6:

need team name for a walk to help raise money for a women's center that helpswomen during unplaned pregnacys?

Hello I am going to be walking with a group of friends at an event that is raising money for a center in my town that helps women with unplanned pregnancy's by giving counseling,birthing classes, FREE pregnancy's tests and sonograms. I am having a hard time coming up with a team name for us. Any ideas?

Question #7:

Were it not for illegal aliens do you think that Liberals could sustain themselves?

Limbaugh: "[Y]ou could say liberals are aborting themselves out of the majority"
March 12, 2007 6:01 pm ET

On the March 12 broadcast of his nationally syndicated radio show, Rush Limbaugh commented on a speech by former Sen. Zell Miller (D-GA) in which Miller stated that Roe v. Wade has led to "too few people" being "produced" in the United States and therefore fewer people filling jobs or serving in the military by stating: "I would only have one small nitpick with former Senator Zeller [sic] over this: How many of these 45 million children who have been aborted would be Democrats, would be the offspring of Democrats? And as such, how many of them would have jobs? As such, how many of them would even think of joining the military?" He then said, "I know there are some Republican liberal babes in there that [have] gone out and had abortions, too, but the vast majority of them are liberals," adding, "This way, if you look at the demographics of the future, you could say liberals are aborting themselves out of the majority, if current trends hold."

Limbaugh's comments came in response to a March 9 posting on The Atlanta Journal-Constitution's Political Insider weblog highlighting Miller's speech at a March 6 banquet for the Sav-A-Life Care Center, an anti-abortion counseling center in Macon, Georgia. The blog post noted that Miller said during the speech:

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Question #8:

Do you like to read about Good News concerning all Babies?

Good News: Restraining Order on Louisiana Ultrasound Law Lifted
James Tillman (August 24, 2010)

"For the first time in Louisiana's history, abortionists will be required to offer women seeking an abortion the opportunity to see the ultrasound image, hear a description of the image, and receive a print-out of the ultrasound. We look forward to seeing the positive results of this legislation in our state."

(Baton Rouge, Louisiana)—On Wednesday, U.S. District Judge Ralph Tyson dissolved a temporary restraining order that he had placed on the Louisiana "Ultrasound Before Abortion Act." The order, which had been instituted at the request of lawyers with the pro-abortion Center for Reproductive Rights, was dissolved after the involved parties signed a stipulation eliminating ambiguities in the Act.

"As we expected, the baseless lawsuit promoted by the Louisiana abortion industry to temporarily stall our 'Ultrasound Before Abortion Act' has been cleared up," said Benjamin Clapper, Executive Director of the Louisiana Right to Life Federation. "This life-saving piece of legislation will now go into effect in abortion facilities across Louisiana."

Ultrasound picThe law requires abortionists to perform an ultrasound on a woman at least two hours before her child is aborted. Abortion facility employees will be required to follow a detailed script, which will instruct them to inform mothers that they have the option at any time to see the ultrasound image, to hear a description of it, or to receive a printout.

The New York-based Center for Reproductive Rights, representing six abortion facilities and an abortionist, had filed suit against the law, alleging that the law was "unconstitutionally vague" and did not specify whether the law required the abortuary to force the woman to receive the printout.

Judge Tyson's decision followed a joint stipulation filed by the plaintiffs and by the Louisiana Department of Health and Hospitals (DHH), which specifies that Louisiana's ultrasound law requires the printout to be offered but does not require the provider to compel the woman to accept it.

"For the first time in Louisiana's history," said Clapper, "abortionists will be required to offer women seeking an abortion the opportunity to see the ultrasound image, hear a description of the image, and receive a print-out of the ultrasound. We look forward to seeing the positive results of this legislation in our state."

The order dismisses the Louisiana officials named as defendants, including Attorney General James D. Caldwell and Interim Secretary Tony Keck of the Department of Health and Hospitals.

"We congratulate the Louisiana Attorney General's office for successfully obtaining a judgment that clears the way for informed decisions," said Dorina Bordlee, Senior Counsel of the Bioethics Defense Fund, which drafted the legislation and provided pro bono legal advice to the Attorney General's office.

"Science tells us when life begins," she continued, "but the real question is when love begins. Legislative testimony confirmed that for many abortion-minded women, love began when they had the opportunity to see their unborn child on an ultrasound screen."

The law also requires abortion facilities to provide the woman with a list of facilities that provide free ultrasound services at least 24 hours before a scheduled abortion. Clinics had argued that they were going to be forced to shut down for violating the law, as the state had not yet supplied the list.

The joint stipulation provides that this provision will be enforced only after the Louisiana DHH distributes the list.

"Once we have the list of providers we can send out, then it is enforceable and we will enforce it. Until then, it is our position that the law is unenforceable," DHH spokeswoman Lisa Faust said.

Another CRR challenge remains extant; this one regards the constitutionality of a state law exempting abortionists from malpractice coverage when conducting abortions on "an uncomplicated and viable pregnancy" posing no risk to the life of the mother.

Source: LifeSiteNews.com
SAVE BABIES AND THAT IS ALWAYS GOOD NEWS. MURDERING BABIES IS AT ALL TIME HIGH FOR A NATION THAT IS FOR FREEDOM FOR ALL.
GOD LOVES YOU AND THE BABIES. LET THEM LIVE AND LET THEM BE ADOPTED NOT KILLED.

Question #9:

am i addicted to attention? Or is my anger out of control?

i don't understand?
My friends all like " Oh i have anger problems"
And my anger is pretty bad but i keep it under control. Because thats what i've been brought up to do. But she gets me REALLY annoyed. Like she said she was really angry and she started scratching her wrist and she got a mark and she was like "oh my god i htink i have a dissorder."

i HATE her being the center of attention for something so FUCKING STUPID.
see- problem. She makes me SO mad. Because she has the attention. I didn't mean to swear then, i really didn't but she makes me SO mad. Like i got really angry and scratched my wrist and ankles ( I was letting anger out and i don't make a routine of it, i am NOT a self harmer (( Please dont give me tips for letting out my anger, i have nowhere to scream. I get in trouble if i do, punching pillow/ screaming into pillow doesnt work, i get in trouble.))) and now i have loads of little cuts. but i can't tell if its just cause im not at the center of attention. maybe a little of both.

But - and i know this sounds AWFUL- but one of my not really close but still hang out with friends DID cut. then i was tempted to. just for attention. how DREADFUL is that?

Anyway my friend with the "anger problems" (*cough as if *cough*) is also getting counselling next year from school. It annoys me because i wan't it just so i can really talk to someone. It drives me insane. I don't want to talk to my friends of teachers and DEFINITELY not my parents. but i don't feel comfortable just asking for counselling.

even now im getting REALLY angry.
And it's been getting WORSE AND WORSE.
even at home i just want to curl up and die.

At times i want to KILL my friend, other times i want to kill myself. What can i do?

Question #10:

Iran's Ahmadinejad vs. Paul the psychic octopus...who will win?

Iran's Mahmoud Ahmadinejad called the creature that correctly forecast World Cup results an agent of "western propaganda."

Poor Paul. Now he's roused the ire of Iranian President Mahmoud Ahmadinejad, who lashed out at the sea creature during a recent speech. He accused Paul and his tentacles of spreading "western propaganda and superstition" and claimed that "those who believe in this type of thing" cannot, like Iranians, "aspire... to human perfection." How much can one eight-legged creature bear?

IS IT PREFERABLE FOR PAUL NOT TO MESS WITH PSYCHOTIC WORLD LEADERS?

...AND SHOULD PAUL BE MADE TO UNDERGO COUNSELLING?

(Paul, who lives at Germany's Oberhausen Sea Life Centre, could not be reached for comment.)

WHAT ARE YOUR VIEWS ON THIS LATEST THREAT TO PAUL, THE PSYCHIC OCTOPUS?

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Question #11:

Career opportunities for bachelor degree in political science?

I want to know what career and employment opportunities are in USA (and EU) for a fresh graduate in Political Science. PLS give specific examples, not just NGOs or political counseling for governmental institutions or smth like that.\What are the chances to get an entry-level job that is not a high school level (like secretary, receptionist, call center operator, assurance agent, manager assistant etc), the steps you have to make, where to apply etc.

Some personal epperiences of other Political Science graduates would be helpful.
No work experience other than some voluntary work and college internships
No work experience other than some voluntary work and college internships
So, my degree would allow me to climb the hierarchic leather of a company, but I still have to start with a job you can obtain even without the bachelor degree?
Do you need to go to Law School in order to be a librarian and have an online business? didn't know that...
...and what's voiceover work???

Question #12:

What are your thoughts on this?

Barack OBAMA,
during his Cairo speech, said:
"I know, too, that Islam has always been a part
of America 's story."

AN AMERICAN
CITIZEN'S RESPONSE:

Dear Mr.
Obama:

Were those
Muslims that were in America when the Pilgrims
first landed? Funny, I thought they were
Native American Indians.

Were those
Muslims that celebrated the first Thanksgiving
day? Sorry again, those were Pilgrims and
Native American Indians.

Can you
show me one Muslim signature on the United
States Constitution?

Declaration
of Independence ?

Bill of
Rights?

Didn't
think so.

Did
Muslims fight for this country's freedom from
England ? No.

Did
Muslims fight during the Civil War to free the
slaves in America ? No, they did
not. In fact, Muslims to this day are
still the largest traffickers in human
slavery. Your own half brother, a devout
Muslim, still advocates slavery himself, even
though Muslims of Arabic descent refer to black
Muslims as "pug nosed slaves." Says a lot
of what the Muslim world really thinks of your
family's "rich Islamic heritage," doesn't it Mr.
Obama?

Where were
Muslims during the Civil Rights era of this
country? Not present.

There are
no pictures or media accounts of Muslims walking
side by side with Martin Luther King, Jr. or
helping to advance the cause of Civil
Rights.

Where were
Muslims during this country's Woman's Suffrage
era? Again, not present. In fact,
devout Muslims demand that women are subservient
to men in the Islamic culture. So much so,
that often they are beaten for not wearing the
'hajib' or for talking to a man who is not a
direct family member or their husband.
Yep, the Muslims are all for women's rights,
aren't they?

Where were
Muslims during World War II? They were
aligned with Adolf Hitler. The Muslim
grand mufti himself met with Adolf Hitler,
reviewed the troops and accepted support from
the Nazi's in killing Jews.

Finally,
Mr. Obama, where were Muslims on Sept. 11th,
2001? If they weren't flying planes into
the World Trade Center , the Pentagon or a field
in Pennsylvania killing nearly 3,000 people on
our own soil, they were rejoicing in the Middle
East . No one can dispute the pictures
shown from all parts of the Muslim world
celebrating on CNN, Fox News, MSNBC and other
cable news networks that day. Strangely,
the very "moderate" Muslims who's asses you bent
over backwards to kiss in Cairo , Egypt on June
4th were stone cold silent post 9-11. To
many Americans, their silence has meant approval
for the acts of that day.

And THAT, Mr.
Obama, is the "rich heritage" Muslims have here
in America .

Oh, I'm sorry, I
forgot to mention the Barbary Pirates.
They were Muslim.

And now we can
add November 5, 2009 - the slaughter of American
soldiers at Fort Hood by a Muslim major who is a
doctor and a psychiatrist who was supposed to be
counseling soldiers returning from battle in
Iraq and Afghanistan .

That, Mr. Obama
is the "Muslim heritage" in America
.

EVERY AMERICAN
MUST READ THIS !!

Be Sure to
SEND ITto All . Even Print it out and
Send by Snail Mail !!

Muslim
heritage, my rear end

Question #13:

Need marriage counseling but can't afford it?

My husband and I have been going through a rough patch lately. It's really more me than him. I stay at home with our three kids (3 and under) and he works 12 hour shifts as a police officer. Our fits usually are about money and chores. Also about me never getting time for myself. I feel like all of the responsibility is poured on me and he just acts like my 4th child. I pick up the house, cook, take care of the kids, etc. When he gets home he doesn't want to help with anything. His hand goes straight for the remote and on comes Sports Center. I understand and have told him that I know he works and needs a break too. But when is it MY turn for a break? Anyway, we are living off of his salary (which needless to say isn't much). I want to try marriage counseling, but I don't think we can afford it. Any suggestions on what we can try to help our marriage out? I love my husband to death, but we are just going through a rough time and I want to work it out so we can get back on the right track. Any help would be greatly appreciated!

**I have tried talking to my girlfriend, but all she seems to tell me is how she is in the picture perfect marriage and she can't relate....pshhh

Question #14:

I don't know how to get into a good college?

I'm 18 and looking to apply to college within the next few months but have absolutely know idea how to get into a good school. Let me explain, the past 4 years of life have been a complete train wreck, my dad was diagnosed with cancer 4 years ago and had to spend most of his time away at treatment centers far away from home. This left me and my younger sister home alone for months at a time trying to make it on our own. Because of the immense stress of my fathers illness and the many additional responsibilities i had my grades fell way down. I was used to being a straight A student and then all the sudden simply maintaining a passing grades was difficult. Anyway i went through 3 years of this until my father died last November. With his death i completely fell apart, my grades got even worse, i developed a drug and alcohol problem, went through bouts of depression and even suicidal thoughts. But I'm okay now, I've been through counseling and completely kicked my drug problem and am looking forward to a much better life.
So here's the problem, I need to apply to colleges in the next few months and I have nothing to show as far as academic achievement the past 4 years. And I really want to go to a good school.
The thing is I am actually very smart I used to get straight A's and my IQ was once tested at 145 but I've just had a strain of really bad luck and heartbreak.

Any suggestions for what to say to colleges or how to present myself to them would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

Question #15:

I don't want to go back to College because of depression?

Since starting my first year of college I have been suffering from depression. I currently attend a University in Brooklyn, New York and I have finished my freshman year, I barely made it. I pursuing a degree in English because the only thing I'm really good at in terms of skills is writing. I'm not interested in publishing a book though.

Aside from that, I have no aspirations in any particular field, no friends (just acquaintances) and none of the clubs interest me at all.

To be honest, I just went to College because it seemed like the next logical step to take in terms of finding my career. But even getting up in the morning is a pain because I'm stuck taking pointless classes on things I don't care about.

I enjoy working though, as I've completed three internships so far, with a fourth one I can work in during the Fall. I love being able to help businesses and other people, which is why I'm working at a Career Center trying to help people find jobs and help them with their situations.

I do have a passion though, but it's a risky business and a gamble (even if you have a degree) that I won't take unless I have a solid back-up plan, which I don't have yet.

I want to produce and create Television shows and cartoons for teenagers, children, and young adults because they were an influential part of my life as a kid.

I'm worried because counseling hasn't helped me a whole lot and my next semester of college is about to begin soon. I fear I won't even survive because of the sheer amount of stress College will give me. What can I do?

Question #16:

help with marriage blues?

been married 2 years. my husband is white i am black. we come from different countries though i was raised fairly westernised. Here are some of the problems:
1. selfish-doesnt clean, cook unless its a huge argument. i mean the man leaves dirty underwear everywhere!
2. we rarely go out unless its something he wants to do ie cammping fishing, if its a movie hell ask wat do u wnat to watch, when i pick and its not something he wants he sulks and when i say sulk i mean he pouts his mouth and frowns -yes like a 10 year old, in public. so i give in
3. his friends are his no 1 priority. they come over whenever they feel like it. they rae married and see our house as a relief centre. the fuuny thing is we hardly ever go to their house because they maintain a balance with their wives and lives whereas my guy will drop everything to accommodate them even our marriage.
4. he drinks everyday partly due to his friends coming over
5. he confides in his friends and family about everything particularly me to the point that i have become a villian and the butt of jokes sometimes racial but apparently because its said as a joke i should "lighten up" and get over it????

biggest problem is this- i gave my my entire life , friends and family to be with this guy. i can stand the thought of knowing that after all that its just gonna end in divorce
i cant stand the idea of him finding someone else
sometimes i feel like maybe if i was white he'd love me more. i feel like he sees me as some disposable thing particularly because im so isolated being away form my family and ive become so entrenched in his lfe and friends, its hard for me to make friends here i mean particulalry at this age 27.c'mon seriously think about it most of your REAL friends are people who u knew growing up and go way back with right . its hard to make that bond at this age . i have friend not the ride to die type. so even if i leave i feel like i wont be able to do it on my own. basically im afraid.

i am so miserable, i feel like there is no way out. i have noone to talk to- i only gathered up the courage to tell my mother all these things a few days ago. but what can she really do, she is so far away.

btw, he wasnt like this when we first got together. anyone in a problem relationship will know that things sneak it bit by bit and before u know it its a massive problem...sooooo no i could have thought abouth the consequences 5 years ago when we first got together and subsequently married coz he wasnt like that.

we have tried counselling but u know how the counsellor will present things from he point of view. well he will take only the positive stuff the cousellor has said and always use it as an excuse . for example she said that maybe he doesnt know how to help around the house so i have to tell him. well he took it to mean unless i tell him to pick up his underwear and make sure the toilet is all the way flushed the i shouldnt complain if he doesnt!!!!!!!!

god, i cannot believe this is my life.

no kids btw. i really want kids but......

Question #17:

What do you think of this excerpt from my book?

I came to the place where Yuki had attacked me, no longer than one hour ago, and slowed to a walk, forcing myself to stop grinning, with much difficulty. Now I had to talk to the counsel, and it was frightening thought. In fact, I had never seen any council members or been to a meeting, even though my parents were on the counsel. I didn’t know what to expect. After about ten minutes I caught a scent, and followed it to a little closed down shop, with boarded windows. I tried to open the door, but it was locked. Unsure, I knocked on it instead. I waited about thirty seconds before it opened a sliver.
“Who are you and what do you want?” said a deep voice from inside.
I swallowed hard and spoke in a tentative but respectful voice.
“My Name is Jasmine Martin, and I am here to request an audience with the counsel.”
The door opened fully now, to reveal I tall man with black hair and red eyes. He was wearing a pair of black combat boots, and an ankle length black trench coat. He was very menacing. “Jasmine Martin, you say? Are you the daughter of Christina and William Martin?”
I nodded silently. He stood aside to allow me in.
“You are always welcome here.” He led me to the back of the building, and down a flight of stairs. I entered into a huge, extravagant room, very different from the first impression the old store gave away. It looked a lot like an eighteenth century ballroom. There were eleven other people in it, sitting at a large table in the center of the room. They all looked up as we entered the room, and a girl who appeared to be around twenty-three stood as we entered. She had elbow length, bright blue hair, and, like the rest of the people, red eyes. She was wearing a pink cocktail dress.
“Who is this?” she asked in a high, almost shrill voice, which reverberated inside my head.
“This is Jasmine Martin, her parents where Clint and Christina Martin.”
“No kidding!” Now a boy who looked about thirteen stood. “You cut your hair! And dyed it! It looks kinda cute!” he gave you a small smile.
“Um, not to be rude, but who are you?”
“WHAT?! Aw man you forgot me? I’m Ryder Johnson, I can’t believe you don’t recognize me!” he looked truthfully affronted.
“Sorry!” I apologized quickly, remembering that if I wasn’t nice they might not allow Sierra to keep her memories.
He rolled his eyes. “Why do they always have to be such kiss ups?” he crossed his hands over his chest. “‘Sorry!’ they always think that’s what we want to hear.” Right now he looked more like a child, pouting in a toy store because his parents wouldn’t buy him some hundred dollar toy. The man who had escorted me in shot him a look that said very clearly, “don’t be such a child!” he got it right away, and resumed his control. He cleared his throat, “Well, anyways, now is not the time. You must have come for some reason.”
“Well, ah, you see, I sort of accidentally, told my best friend I’m a vampire.” I closed my eyes and waited. I don’t know how long we were silent, but it felt like an awfully long time. Finally, a new person stood. The sliding of his chair and his heavy footsteps sounded amplified in the tense silence.
“How did this happen?” he asked quietly.
I explained about all that happened with Yuki, and waited. We where silent.
“Tell me, Jasmine, how long has she known?”
“Only since earlier today.” I answered.
“Did she have any… suspicions beforehand?”
“I can’t say, but its very possible.”
“This is… regrettable.” The new man said.
“Regrettable?” I said, confused.
“Yes, you see, we are all purebloods, and therefore can erase a persons memories. However, we cannot make her forget her suspicions.”
I could tell where he was going with this, and a cold feeling of terror was filling me up like water. You know that thing in the back of your mind that tells you not to say or do things? Well, mine broke, then and there. “But I trust her!” I shouted, more loudly than I intended.
“Yes, well-” the woman tried to speak, but I cut her off.
“I wont let you touch her! You cant kill her for having a brain!” my voice echoed around the room.

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Question #18:

What do you think of this outtake from my book?

Question #19:

Do you think I have an anxiety disorder?

Hi, I am just wondering really, I have got my first counselling session tomorrow and I was looking into anxiety disorders because I am often really nervous. Some of the things I experience are:

- Getting nervous about simple things like going to the shops or meeting my friend.
- I get nervous going to lessons sometimes as our school has this five minuet thing, because problems with my anger often arise while I am waiting to go into lessons so i got to the student support centre before most lessons and go into my lessons five minuets later than everyone else so that I'm not waiting with everyone. But I hate being the only person standing up while I am going to sit down.
- Until recently, I would do my very best to avoid family parties, I would go to extremes and make myself sick just to get out of going. That's if I wasn't sick with nervousness.

When I am nervous I walk faster when I go into lessons, refuse to speak often comes under nervousness with me as well, likewise refusal to work if I have to move. I purposely try not to breath so iI don't make a noise, mostly when people are talking to me, Sweaty hands, when no one is around I breath a lot quicker.

Please tell me if you think I have an anxiety disorder. My dad does as well and he went on a college course about it about 2 years ago. He has some of the same things.
@ cate- I said 'I think' and I saw the question, after, I had posted mine.
@ Stacy- Thanks I think I will look into GAD more. :)
@ don c- no its not educational its more to do with my self harm and things that have happened to me in the past and so on.

Question #20:

When sealing juvenile records, what kind of agencies can you list?

Other then the court, probation and police department. They sent me to a treatment center, to a counseling service and a privet business for drug testing. Could I list these "agencies" in my petition to seal my records?
and can I list the police department that only transported me but never arrested me? and can I list the juvenile jails where I was held? because it was in a different county.

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