Question: one last question....why do i feel like i don't deserve to be loved?

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Answer #1:

you need to pray to God, and that he will bless you with someone you love

Answer #2:

I don't know you but I will say I love you, just based on the fact your son does. That's the most important thing, your son. As long as you have him you have love, take care. You're worthy.

Answer #3:

well, your Dad is your model of a man so if he was not emotionally involved in your life, it affects the relationships that you choose. If you are constantly trying to seek approval from your Dad and still cant get him to say those words to you, you feel unworthy of a man's love. You will not venture outside of your comfort zone and find a man who is capable of loving because you, irrationally I might ad, are afraid of getting too close and actually experiencing love. I know you said that you kept on loving,but your relationships didnt reciprocate..but you cant ask for more than you give. You have to be willing to let go of a bit of yourself to give to another person..a worthy person..not those who are emotionally detached. You likely stay detached yourself in a relationship and base it on physical intimacy instead of emotional intimacy because you want to feel close but fear getting in too deep in case your love is not reciprocated. Stay with your counseling if it helps and dont lose hope..you are lovable and at some point there will be someone that cares enough to see the real you.

Answer #4:

You will have to love yourself first of all, then people will love you. You have to fall in love with yourself. Can you?
In order to fall in love with yourself you have to look good, smile to yourself in the mirror, if you don't like your smile, that means something is wrong in the way you wear, or in the way you make your hair, or in the way you think.
Strengthen your self-esteem. Be kind to people, without expecting anything in return. Everything shows in your eyes.
Lazy people, for example, or selfish people, show it in their gestures, in their lack of self-confidence.
You have to be sure of yourself to have a loving and kind heart, able to serve humanity, or the person you love, being able to risk your life for him.
There is a quote: Change yourself first to be able to change the world.
try to have a few hours of volunteering, for example in a nursing home, where elderly people will wait for you to tell you their worries, then you will feel yourself needed, and you will begin to love yourself, to love the good deeds you are doing, which will strengthen your self-esteem.





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