Question: Husband confessed infidelity?

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Answer #1:

Since divorce is not an option, then you need to realize it isn't going to change and neither is he. Be prepared for a constant roller coaster ride where there is no trust.
Blame yourself for not having any self respect if he continues to do it.

Answer #2:

Listen forget him hes too insecure and will keep cheating until he builds his ego up which won't happen so you know where this is going Just leave him

Answer #3:

Since divorce is not an option you have to learn to live with this. Apparently infidelity is an option, at least for him, so you may want to explore that avenue for yourself.

Answer #4:

You can get marriage counseling for free. Try going to the pastor of a local church (my pastor is a licensed counselor) or go to a university and find a psychology student who is working on their internship.

Answer #5:

have you considered getting closer to God through religion? I'm sure there will be something in your heart and soul that's not quite right. Give him some sort of credit for confessing it and not continuing the lie. Contact a church marriage counselor their either free or very reasonably priced. Good luck.

Answer #6:

let ur anger out he'll understand or do online marriage counseling

Answer #7:

If divorce isn't an option then deal with it.
With holding sex will only make him go back to that playmate of his.

Answer #8:

If you made the decision to stay, essentially you made the decision to forgive. If you chose to stay, it's your responsibility to completely forgive until he gives you a NEW reason to do otherwise. So, in my opinion, get over yourself, give your man a hug and a BJ and move on.

Answer #9:

It's ok to be angry, let it go tell him how much it hurts. If divorce is out of the question then, work it out, get the book " The Five Love languages" read it together. Their is healing in time and their is trust when it is earned. He is no longer to have any thing to hide from you. total openess.
Sorry for you pain,

Answer #10:

I'm sorry you are going through this. It sounds to me like you two need to spend some quality time with each other communicating. You need to talk to him about this whenever you feel the need. You can't keep your feelings bottled up and he needs to be ready to listen to you when you have something to say. On the other hand atleast he was honest with you even though it hurt you. Try finding a sitter and spending more alone time with him. Maybe you can learn to "like him" again. I wish you luck.

Answer #11:

Darcy is right, if you stay you are only getting what you deserve.

Answer #12:

I don't understand you weren't mad before, but your mad now why is that.
Is their something else that's happened within those six months that hes being doing to upset you and the confession adds to it? Why are you feeling like this half a year late?

But the fact that he did confess I think shows hes trying to change for you and for God, religion and belief can tame the horniest man because he has something more important than him to devote his soul to.So if religion is his driving force, than he very well could have meant that he wasn't going to betray you anymore. Its one of the main factors Ive seen guys get self control and turn their life around.

Also im a christian and technically were not supposed to get divorced UNLESS our partner has been unfaithful then we are free to choose another marriage partner.( I don't know what your reason for not getting a divorce is)

Perhaps you should have a sit down down with him or maybe send him this question and show him what you wrote.

Peace and blessings.

Answer #13:

haha closer to god.. thats a crock of poo..

why is divorce not an option? do you want your life to be miserable???

listen u took vows.. he broke them...leave his cheating ass.

Answer #14:

((( confused and angry)))

I am sorry for your pain and anger. Although what you are feeling is natural and expected. So the infatuation stage is over, and he made a mistake. I have to give him some credit for opening up and telling the truth. That is guilt and a cry for help. I will leave you with some sources that will help, you can contact me for more help if you like for I have survived infidelity and divorce was not an option for me either.

You can get through this but you both have to want to. It will take time, a lot of time and work but the marriage can be even stronger than it was before. Indifference is the opposite of love, as long as you don't have that feeling you have hope. Communication is the key. You have to let him know how it has affected you. How you are feeling. keeping it in will sooner or later just blow up into a bigger problem. I wish you the best and take care of yourself.





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