Question: What is wrong with me, why am i this way?

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Answer #1:

you have abandonment issues, i guess. And, you dont' love yourself.

Answer #2:

sounds like you need therapy, but you already plan that. you have built a wall to protect yourself, and now you are afraid to be exposed. if you do not embrace the change, then you will lose her. is she worth being hurt for?

Answer #3:

At one time, I was very anxious and depressed and then tried to stop having all emotions. It sounds like you may have done this also. It took some time but with counseling I was able to feel better. When you try to stop having all types of emotions that you do not like, then sometimes the good ones go away too. I think you are quite smart to recognize all of this and are already on the way to getting better. You could try to make up some "catch phrases" for yourself when you start feeling bad. I tell myself, "Quit! That's enough," or "It is what it is. Stop."

Answer #4:

I used to be like this as well.
Deep down you must know that you are a caring and loving person. In the past, I think it was simply a matter of pretending to be something you are not and pretending as though caring feelings and emotions did not exist inside of you. To me this sounds like a mechanism you've created to protect you from getting hurt and now the tranisition into not just having feelings, but expressing them is making you fearful, vulnerable, and maybe a little insecure about your ownself and this relationship.

Furthermore, your accussations of her cheating and being unfaithful is another way your mind is trying to protect your heart. In your head, you might subconciously believe that the more you prepare yourself for hurt the less disappointing it will be, but Im here to tell you otherwise. Trust me, it doesnt make it any less hurtful. I've come a long way since, removing the hard shell I once used to mask up emotions and today I know its alot better to just learn how to trust and enjoy the relationship, depsite any hardships you may face now and in the future. If you try shoving your best foot forward and trusting from the get-go until she gives you good enough reason not to, I think your relationship will go much farther. It might be a much more successful one and definatly a happier one once you take down your guards.
Eventually, if you dont show this girl that you are trying to trust her and that your making progress, she may leave you as it will take a toll on her self-esteem and overall self-worth. The key to a relationship is that your suppossed to build eachother up, not drag eachother down. Maybe if you try explaining to her where this all stems from, she'll be more understanding and more patient with you as your changing into a better person.

Answer #5:

what you really fear is being alone and unloved. you push people that love you away because you are afraid that if they get close they will disappoint or hurt you and you would not know how to mend your heart. how to overcome this? try being more positive. try showing at least a little emotion to her because and some point if you don't you will lose her and if you did love her, you will never forgive your self for closing your heart.

Answer #6:

WAY BACK have you suffered rejection?it seems TO BE you got this problem right from the IDENTITY STAGE. IF POSSIBLE try to communicate to the people caused you too much hurt,pain, or discouragement.surpassing your feelings& emotion without doing anything helpful to the situation is not healthy. HELP YOURSELF NO ONE ELSE CAN DO IT. EVEN YOU APPROACH THE.SPECIALIST.CHANGES STARTS WITHIN YOU.IT IS NOW OR NEVER BEFORE IT IS .TURNING TOO LATE,REGARDS,

Answer #7:

Sometimes I think if people have a kind of very complicated emotions that is bothering themselves it might because of a kind of underlying reason that's yet unknown even to that person him/her-self.

If you think that it's hard for you to think that somebody could love you but yet you're very afraid to lose that person... with the aim trying to help yourself, I suggest you to start self talking with the first question of "Why". Is it because the incidents in your past life, or have you ever encounter unpleasant incidence that cause you to behave like this? If you take a calm concentration time to figure out your mind problem, you might have a better chance to settle this problem once and for all.

I hope you soon figure out your problems, so that you can live a better life. Life's short, don't waste it. Behave well, and I pray for your goodness in life.

Good night =)





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