Question: So upset at my mum </3 I think my heart is in a million pieces?
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Answer #1:
God loves you more than anyone else hun and he can take away all the pain, just pray and ask Jesus into your heart but when you say it you have to mean it. Go to your nearest Christan church and ask someone to help you. trust me you wont regret it. and as for your dog i understand completly just give your mom some time maybe she'll come aroundAnswer #2:
I had the exact same experience. I wanted a kitty since I was about 10. I was also promised that if I got a complete A+ report card, I would recieve a cat. Well I'm 17, have straight A's and still ... no cat. I learned to live without one even though inside I'm DYING TO HAVE ONE SINCE IM A CAT LOVER. However, I just gave up on the idea because nomatter what I did ... id never see a cat in my house.Therefore, you let you mum know that a dog will only bring you more pleasure in that it would make you a happier person. Instead of getting counselling, a loyal pet might be just the thing you need. Also tell her that if, after having a dog, you're still depressed and need counselling, that you will gladly accept the rigors of counselling without any questions.
Basically turn the tables around and YOU MAKE THE DEAL that will please both parties (You and your mum).
Also another thing, I know bullying could be a handful and replacing that hardship with a loyal pet would seem liek the best thing to do but ... IT REALLY IS :) SO GET A DOG =D AND ENJOY LIFE
Good Luck turning the tables around, and always look for positive support against asshole counsellors and B!ches at school :)
Answer #3:
Just explain to your mom that counseling made things worse.Answer #4:
I agree with the person above just tell you mom that having a dog will make you alot happier and help with all the problems in your life because you'll have a loyal loving companion.Maybe even get a part time job to show her you can help take care of it this can be a great distraction from lifes everyday drama as well.
I think fi you show your mom your a little more responsible and stable she might go for it.
Answer #5:
Firstly, I'm sorry to hear about your dad - it's a hard time for you and yes a dog would be great for you, it would be a companion and a distraction for you from the obviously rough year you have gone through.My only concern is if you are old enough to have a boyfriend i am picking your mum MAY think you wont be as committed to the work involved in having a dog. They take up a lot of time and need walking, grooming etc and its a 13 year on average commitment. What will you be doing in 13 years? You need to think of that.
However, back to your mum changing her conditions. You probably think you are coping with your dads passing but maybe mum can see something you cant. I know counselling is difficult, i know it sometimes goes where you dont want to go but meet mum half way. Say you will go but not to the previous one as they upset you too much. Say you will go to someone different but only on the condition that you get a time of when you can have a dog. That way you can negotiate what sort of wait time there is. If she cant give you a time then say without that you are not prepared to work towards a mutual goal.
Just be a bit careful as mum has lost her husband and she may just be feeling so over loaded she cant see a way forward and is scared of being alone and bringing you up without having dad to help her. Its hard being a parent - babies dont come with instruction books so we just have to do our best.
Stay calm when you talk to mum, tell her you understand how she must be feeling, then say you would like to come to a mutual agreement on how you can have a dog at the same time as ensuring her you are fine. Try not to get upset when you talk to her, no yelling or emotional breakdowns, just try to be grown up and show her that you are grown up enough to negotiate a workable solution.
Aso let her know how much you love her - she will be feeling pretty scared and alone at the moment.
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