Question #1:

What are some little things I can do for my mom to make her feel better?

My mother just had a DVO (Domestic Violence Order) placed on her ex-fiance today when she went to court. Long story short, the guy hit her and was verbally and emotionally abusive to her and was overall a bad influence on her. She is under the assumption she is in love with him still and she will need lots of counseling, yes.

I want to show her that I'm there for her and that I love her and such... and we've done so much driving back and forth in the past week so I think we will stay secluded in my dad's house for a little bit.

I know it would be quite hard to get her mind off of the situation but is there anything that you think I could do for her? I was thinking giving her a mani/pedi or something, something to make her feel good? spend time with her? not necessarily sit down and watch a movie with her but something like that...

any ideas? Please and thankyou

(I'm fifteen by the way haha)

Question #2:

one last question....why do i feel like i don't deserve to be loved?

I've had 7 relationships, all which were unloving relationships. None of them ever told me they loved me or even shown me they loved me. My bro and my dad never told me they loved me either. They told my sister that she is loved very much. To be honest i never heard anyone say they love me either, except my son I think. I don't believe in love cuz i loved a man once and he didn't reciprocate either. I keep loving (not anymore) but never loved back. Sometimes i feel i don't deserve love or whatever.

At the moment, i am having counselling, i am 39.

Question #3:

I'm suffering from social anxiety ,what should i have, counselling?

I'm suffering from social anxiety ,what should i have, counselling?
psychotherapy ? or hypnotherapy?
I'm not sure what's the difference between them. Any suggestion?

Question #4:

My life, my dreams, my fears...what do they mean?

I once stated I fear nothing. But last night I had a dream that a counsel of men where to have me immediately executed. In the dream I ran for my life, and called out to my adopted mother. She could do nothing, but beg for my life to no avail, and hang her head in sorrow...

Question #5:

Not a Limbaugh Debate but father started listening to Limbaugh & seriously changed to more serious, rigid.....?

thinking and no one wants to spend time with him. He used to be fun to be around. How can we encourage Dad to little by little wean off listening to Rush Limbaugh. Everyone else can see the change except him. He answers questions exactly like Limbaugh would and it's really bizarre---please don't defend Limbaugh because I'm asking for counseling on this not emphasizing politics if that's what you would call him (?)
If I were the only one noticing it, I wouldn't bring it up.

He was an open-minded delightful person interested in everyone. Now he will turn off the tv if the President is on because Rush has convinced him the President is "evil."

I guess you have to be around him before & after this addiction to understand. Those of us "here for him" care about his mental health. I guess I shouldn't expect a stranger on YA to identify.

Question #6:

How do parents take control or handle a preteen that is rebelling?

How do you handle a 12 year old girl who acts like she is rebelling? Public schools today are worse than they were when I went to school. The once pleasant little girl is now bitter. We have 5 daughters but our oldest did not do this. She comes home from school with a major additude, being mouthy and throwing fits at home which she never did before. Asking her to do a chore is like pulling teeth. She even gets so angry she will tell us she hates me or my husband.
She did not get her period yet. Is it a stage they go through or something we should take seriously and seek counseling?

Question #7:

Do you ever feel like disappearing?

I don't know about dying yet. But I know I just feel like disappearing. Everyone in my family relies on me for money/support/counsel/nurturance. And when I make a mistake they make me feel like complete shit and my father always puts me down, even though I give money to him without question. And my mother always compares me to her sister and says that I'm weak. I'm tired of my life and I just want to get away from everyone. I cry every night and just want to die some nights. I have no one to talk to because my brother's girlfriend throws fits when my bestfriend(my brother's ex) comes over and I feel very isolated at work because I work with his girlfriend and she talks about me all the time to everyone, even though there are very few things she could say about me because I have tried to help her since she has had my brother's child. But she resents me because she can't control me or manipulate me. And I just quit that job and feel good for once but I don't know if I should feel good about quitting.

Everyone in my family is capable of working and I've been working and helping out since I was twelve and now I am twenty two years old and my dad gets angry with me for not being in school but it was impossible to go to school and take care of my family so I took a semester off and now I'm enrolled again but I don't know if it's so wrong to leave my family because they are all so reliant on me for money and I cheer them up everyday because they feel bad about losing our house but it's been a year now and they won't come out of this depression.

Question #8:

I have caught my dad cheating numerous times?

Long story short, I am 16 now and I'll be 17 soon, ever since I was very young I have caught my dad cheating on my mom. My dad has abused (physically, mentally) me, since I was extremely young, and my mom, but never my younger brother who is now 13. I've recently caught him cheating again saying absolutely racy things to a woman he met only two weeks ago.
I finally confronted him about the whole thing, he denied it.

Anyway, since then I have been living with my boyfriend of almost two years and his mom.
I don't want to come back home, my dad says I need counseling and he's cutting me from the cell phone plan because I hate him so much.
What am I going to do? I can't live at home like this.
To john M,
Well, for one thing my mom has always known. Sorry I should have said that earlier.
But, you don't know me, you have no right to assume that I am even having sex with my boyfriend. My parents allow me to stay there frequently.

Question #9:

Should i become a counseling psychologist or a lawyer?

Which is better overall?

Question #10:

Does my Pisces Sun, Cancer Moon, and Scorpio Rising...?

make me feel bottled up with my emotions? I had to go to court counseling(don't ask) this morning, and the consular says that I don't express my emotions to most people until the situation gets worse. I agreed with this. I don't do it on purpose, I just don't want people to feel sorry for me or anything like that.

I was just wondering if Sun, Moon, and Rising had to do with this because they're all Water signs.

Question #11:

How do I break this cycle, and move on for Good??

We met in college and really hit it off, shortly after I became pregnant and had our first child, he knew I really wanted to be married, but said wait till he finished school (I ended up temporarily dropping out). Well anyway the relationship is rocky and I am dumped several times, but he always comes back. Then he says he's done forever, he met a girl on myspace. It doesn't work out and we eventually get back together. Well not even six months later I am preggo again!!! (birth control pills failed!!!) this time it's twins. I get my tubes tied this time also, and five months down the road he says he doesn't want me anymore and throws me and his children out of the home and immediately starts dateing a girl he met on myspace. She dumps him, he suckers me back in and a few months later he dumps me again from yet another girl from myspace. We stay split for a bout six months this time, all this time I never dated anyone or did anything but raise my children on my own and long to be a family like he promised me. I start to move on on, then he begs for me back, so once again he dumps me for a girl from myspace the day before Valentine's day, and screws her on Valentines day!! I find out and he dumps her, begs, cries pleads for forgiveness, says he'll do counseling, he'll do anything, he'll change if I take him back. Like a dumba*ss I take him back, and he he screws her again!!! He sticks to his guns about not cheating, because he says he dumps me first, so really he never cheated, but it never hurt any less.

I dont need people telling me how stupid I am, I already know I was a fool and a half for this man. If I could go back in time I would have walked away the first time he left me for someone else. I just wasn't strong enough, even now the oldest is two and the twins are only 18 months, but they were infants then, I didn't want to do it alone, it's sooo hard. He always told me he loved me, and I believed him at the time. He always insulted me, so I had low self esteem cause I shot up to 165lbs, I have a c-section scar and stretch mark, I felt like no one else would want that and all my baggage. I honestly don't know why I stayed soo long. Am I the dumbest woman in the world has any other woman been through something like this. How do I break this cycle FOREVER, I really do want to, but when he comes back crying and begging it seems so sincere and I look at our kids and want a family for the. How do I stop this cycle, any advice or thought would be appreciated.

Question #12:

am i reading this wrong?

I am having counselling and a helper is there to help me alot (not a counsellor). Whenever I finish my counselling, my helper and i leave the place together, always take a bus together. He always make me laugh alot. We text each others every now and then. He bought me a can of drink, he always hug me goodbye which is sweet. Does he like me a little bit more or am i reading this wrong?

One more question....I told him I liked his shirt. I wasn't flirting with him becos he usually wear a jumper and then he wore a shirt. He was embarrassed.
He is an interpreter. That's his job.

Question #13:

What should I do? Rushed marriage, pregnancy, abusive husband?

I married a guy I met online, it was all a bit rushed. I am from the UK and he's American, I moved out there and after a couple of months he was very verbally abusive and he got physical with me, so I left and went to stay with a friend. Of course he begged me back the whole week and I thought since I married him, I would give him another chance, so I did and it was fine for a while and then the abuse started again, he'd yell, call me all the names of the day and throw things, he terrified me. I found out I was pregnant, it wasn't planned of course, I would never want to bring a child into an unstable marriage. I knew before I married him, I shouldn't have done it....now I can see why warning bells were going off...of course I didn't listen to them. Anyway to cut a long story short, I came home with him to see my family and he had to go back, but I decided to stay and have the baby here for fear things would get worse and I would be stuck there once baby born there and is automatically an American Citizen....I told him he needs counselling before I would consider going back, of course he's not happy. I just don't trust the whole thing...I have never trusted his character, the funny thing is he confesses to be a christian, as I am, and my pastor told me if he truly repents over this-that I have no grounds for divorce. Thing is he so-called repented the last time and continued to be that way!!!
My pastor did tell me to think of me and baby now of course and for me to have her here, and that I will know if he truly repents....

Question #14:

Husband confessed infidelity?

My husband & i have been married for 5 years, back in January he confessed to me that he "started to have sex" with a former "playmate" (they werent every really dating just sexing) then backed out and came home. Also he confessed that he exposed himself to a couple co-workers to get their opinion on his size.

Ever since last year he has been trying to get closer to God through religion and this is why he confessed these wrong doings to me. Now when he told me in January what had happened i was upset but i didnt feel mad or angry towards him about it.

6 months later i have a lot of pent up anger and frustration built up inside me. I am not interested in being intimate with him ( this may also have something to do with the 3 kids under 5 thing we have going on), and the feeling i have for him are that i love him but at the same time I really dont like him.

divorce is NOT an option and I have no idea how to deal with this situation. We cant afford marriage counseling so that is also not an option. I don't know how to make me feel better about how I am feeling towards him.
1st I would like to say that I have PLENTY of respect for myself & for our marriage which is why divorce is NOT an option. Too many people today want to just leave and not work n e thing out.. thats childish. now moving on:

HIGH STAKES & MZ RO: Thank You I will definitly look into church counseling.

TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT: I am not WITHHOLDING I have lost interest there is a difference

JESSICA, DARCY, & CARTMAN: niether must not know how to maintain a serious relationship or you would have had a more grown up answer

OLMAN357 & JUST A WOMAN: Thank you for your support i really do need that
LISA Thank you for your support too

Question #15:

Can somebody help me with self harm?

I've been self harming for 3 1/2 years now. And i can't seem to find a way out of it. I have tried counseling before but i had to quit, i didn't want my parents to find out. But every cut i make is getting deeper, I'm even having thoughts about ending everything. But i dont think i would have the guts to do that,. But could someone possibly help me in someway? x

Question #16:

Is THIS what San Fran Nan meant by "Clearing the swamp of corruption"?

K Street goes to the defense of Charlie Rangel

Every person accused of a crime or an ethics violation deserves a competent defense. Charlie Rangel's legal defense, fittingly, comes from K Street.

Two of the three firms providing legal counsel to Rep. Charlie Rangel, D-N.Y., in his pending ethics cases are lobbying firms. In fact, one firm, Oldaker, Belair & Wittie, conducts much of Rangel's political fundraising, while operating four different lobby shops.

Read more at the Washington Examiner: Click Here
But who's ultimately paying Rangel's legal bills? Mostly corporate and union political action committees along with individual lobbyists. Over the past six months, PACs and lobbyists have accounted for a majority of the money Rangel's campaign has raised this year, not counting transfers from Rangel's other fundraising operations (more on them below).

Question #17:

Do Anti-Depressants work?

I have been depressed for over 4 months now - and its getting worst with each day. I have recently been having dark thoughts about self-harm which is scaring me. I didn't want to be reliable upon a drug - but I believe that I really do need them.

So for those with experience, did they actually help you? And how long did it take for them work? Any extra information would be gladly received.

P.S. Counselling doesn't work for me. I know, I have tried three times now.

Question #18:

If someone you loved was victimized by sexual violence would you encourage them to report to the police?

If the abuser is actually charged this possibly mean years of judicial proceduresnot to mention people making all kinds of cruel remarks such as victim was at fault or maybe falsely accusing. Or would you suggest to just go for counselling and work through issues associated with this crime?

Question #19:

What is wrong with me, why am i this way?

Through my teenage years i formed myself into having a mask - one that i dont care, that i have no feelings & emotion, i wanted people to be scared of me i wanted to come across as someone you wouldn't want to mess with & during that process i ended up cutting off revealing any sort of emotion unless it was anger. Iv moved on from this, i met my partner & fell madly in love with her but i just cannot deal with this emotion, i have no idea how to cope with it i cannot bare the feeling of having no control & being this vulnerable to one person who has such a hold of my life because i know if i lost her my life would be over. Being this way is ruining my relationship, when we are in public i have problems with showing my emotions towards her & sometimes i cannot deal with this emotion that i feel for her i deliberately search for things to cause an argument & hurt her.I have grown such an obsession with her and an ex male friend that i continually accuse her of cheating on her with me & i have convinced myself that it is true, i have such a problem in accepting that anyone could love me. Im trying to get help for this, therapy counseling etc but i just want to know why am i like this? Has anyone else experienced this?

Question #20:

What alternatives are there to counselling?

I need some help but have found counselling to be not at all helpful. What alternatives are there? Basically I am looking for someone to help me sort out some emotional problems - stress, anger, feelings of not fitting in etc. I feel I need something more than counselling. I am going back to my GP to ask but don't really want to be told there is no alternative! I even paid for private counselling thinking I would get better advice but I find the rationale behind counselling tends to be to let me talk with no/minimal feedback from the counsellor. I need someone who will give advice, be able to talk about medical issues as well. I am not really sure. Thanks in advance for any replies!





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